𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗳𝗶𝗿𝘀𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗜 𝗱𝗶𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘀𝘁𝗮𝗿𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝗺𝗲 𝗼𝗻 𝗺𝘆 𝗷𝗼𝘂𝗿𝗻𝗲𝘆 𝗼𝗳 𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗼𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆.
In my last post, I shared my story of suffering from depression and anxiety for a long time. I felt stuck at my cooperate job in London, which I had for seven years, my marriage was falling apart, and I was constantly feeling sad.
All I wanted was to become happy again. I wanted to be able to function at work. But deep down, I wanted to feel loved again and to be able to give love”. I tried to find meaning in my work and life, and I wanted to find hope again.
I tried almost everything to get out of this sad state, like traditional therapy, changing my diet, exercising, and overall changing my lifestyle. But I was mostly trying to make changes on the outside.
Until a friend of mine recommended me the book “the untethered soul” by Michael A. Singer. Reading that book was the first step in changing my life.
I realised that thoughts aren’t facts!
Meaning the negative voice in my head was not me. It was just a voice, and I could decide if I wanted to listen to it. I could try to change it. So I decided to become aware of my thoughts. By doing that, I realised more and more that thoughts aren’t facts!
It was still hard not to listen to them and not get caught up in the emotion related to the thoughts. As I still had primarily negative thoughts, I also mainly felt negative emotions. But I knew this was the way out of my misery. I intellectually understood it. I just had to find a way to implement it.
Over time, I managed to change my thoughts, and the great thing was that by changing my thoughts and my inside world, things on the outside started to get better. For example, I thought a lot that my life was meaningless and purposeless. By realising that this wasn’t a fact and giving my life meaning, I found some meaning in my job. I realised I could actually help people in my office who were suffering from depression or other mental health problems themselves.
I could sleep better, felt less sad and depressed, and started to have more hope for the future.
So to summarise what you can do:
- Become aware of your thoughts first, maybe right them down.
- Realise they are not facts.
- Try to change them.
- For example if you think something negative like “I am not good enough” ask yourself if its true and than change it into a positive thought “I am good enough”.
- Next step is to focus more on others. To help others can get you out of your own misery and give your life some meaning.
If you have any questions about this and how you can use it for yourself, please message me, and I’ll send you a secret link to schedule a quick chat with me.